A Meditation for ACoAs
By Earnie Larsen & Carol Larsen Hegarty
Adult children are all too familiar with keeping quiet and laying low. We knew it was our job, though it was never stated, to keep the blanket of secrecy tucked in tight. “They”—our friends, teachers, neighbors—must never know. So we said nothing. Ever.
For many of us, not talking became a habit. And so did defensiveness, rationalization, and lying. To us, leaping from a plane without a parachute would have felt less dangerous than talking freely to a friend. “Sharing is dangerous!” the old tapes cry out when we momentarily relax in comradeship.
The task is to let go of the long-held secrets. No matter how painful the opening up process may be, it is absolutely essential to recovery. For us, sharing means heartache and happiness, triumph and tragedy—one the wellspring of the other. Silence is the prison; sharing is the key.
Today, I will remember that trusting a friend is not dangerous and will open myself to honest sharing.
From the winter of our doubts and confusion and sadness we waken to a spring of the self-stirring anew. In the days of healing and joy that lie ahead, let this book of daily meditations speak to you, instilling hope and confidence and courage. A year's worth of quotations, meditations, and closing thoughts encourage the small but consistent efforts of those seeking to give voice to the often timid, unsure, and frightened child within.
Each day, find in these pages the strength, wisdom, and support that light the way to serenity in any season of life.